tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post269279053643429613..comments2024-03-27T12:24:29.019+08:00Comments on PetuniaLee™: How To StudyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-82896313402790647312016-11-20T13:26:24.547+08:002016-11-20T13:26:24.547+08:00Petunia, its such a great idea to do by subjects e...Petunia, its such a great idea to do by subjects every fortnight. I'm one of those who tried to plan all 4 in a weak. Sometimes we tend to complicate things.<br /><br />I'm going to try your methods.it would help me too with such a simple plan.<br /><br />Thank you so much!Limnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-76374636873503704242016-11-04T11:59:41.006+08:002016-11-04T11:59:41.006+08:00Lim... I had 3 stages...
In P4, I plan and Son ch...Lim... I had 3 stages...<br /><br />In P4, I plan and Son challenged and then we would discuss before fixing the schedule. The discussion trained her on how to plan.<br /><br />in P5, Son planned and I challenged.... and we would discuss before fixing the schedule. The discussion refined his planning rationale.<br /><br />in P6, he planned and I pretend to look, before I say nice things.<br /><br />Our plans were not complicated. We did the same subject everyday for 2 weeks before we moved onto the next subject so it was not an unwieldy plan. most parents try to plan all 4 subjects into the same week and that makes it hard for the child to grasp planning.<br />Petunia Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01168448898497786754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-72010173138124832662016-11-04T11:41:37.936+08:002016-11-04T11:41:37.936+08:00I am quite sure that if I had continued homeschool...I am quite sure that if I had continued homeschooling, my kids would have entered uni before their age... but why? Why do that? Why expose them to situations where instead of being normal, they are strange (even if strange in a nice way)? Social capital is an enormous advantage in life. I don't want lonely kids.Petunia Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01168448898497786754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-48290278998381566572016-11-04T11:11:45.326+08:002016-11-04T11:11:45.326+08:00Yes... 2 hours of effective learning VS whole day ...Yes... 2 hours of effective learning VS whole day schooling plus tuition... (and if any of Dr. Pet's enrolled parents are reading this)... this is why I get very upset when parents coerce kids to NOT consume their SkipHWCoupons. You really want to focus on how much is learnt and not on how much HW is completed.<br /><br />Homeschooling required me to be with my kids all day. I wanted my own life and so I sent them back to school to give me time to do MY OWN things. I tend to think that Laziness is a virtue, and do the minimum to get what I want. Kids were already kinda topping the class with partial unschooling, so I saw no point in doing more. Kinda top of class ok already.<br /><br />It really is a balance too. Many homeschoolers look beyond the achievement rankings. I wanted the best of both worlds. I wanted to expose my kids to the cutthroat educational system and have them know that they do stand well in there, whilst also respecting my kids' passions... and training them to learn without having to resort to worksheet after worksheet.<br /><br />The Daughter was also a social being. She thrives on the company of people. It seemed unfair to cut her off from her wide network of friends. When we came home from the USA, we had 3 days of peace. On Day 4, my daughter made ONE phone call and the phone rang of the hook for the next 2 days. The Daughter's gifting is her way with people. I needed conventional school to afford her the exposure to people in order to help her refine her gifting.<br /><br />The Son was NOT a social being. He had only 1 friend in P1, P2 and P3 (who later left to go to GEP) and after that, he had no friends. After school daily, I would use the Mayer-Salovey model of emotional intelligence to walk him through the day's social quandaries and events. Today, he holds pinnacle leadership positions in 2 CCAs and 1 in class. To teach him EQ, I needed to immerse him in the bath of social interactions and from there to find teaching moments.<br /><br />If I had envisaged education as purely and academic endeavour, then homeschooling would probably have made "geniuses" of my kids but I did not want that type of destiny for them. I did not want them to go to university before their time. I did not want them to be viewed as anything other than normal.<br /><br />They may have been gifted (as some people say). I don't know. I don't care. Gifted children want to be loved over and beyond their giftings, and the best way to do that is to never explicitly state that they are geniuses so that the question of "Do you love me only because I am gifted?" does not even pop up. My kids know and believe they are normal kids who need to work hard for what academic success they have... and that if they did not work hard, they have no GE label to fall back on to get opportunities. <br /><br />I subverted the educational system enough to get them somewhere interesting and then I wanted them to adapt to that system because my kids will grow up and work in a world that is a lot more conventional than their home environment. The only way to do that is to immerse them there so that my kids are bi-cultural and able to evolve in 2 worlds.Petunia Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01168448898497786754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-80939949656821286062016-11-04T08:12:27.369+08:002016-11-04T08:12:27.369+08:00Your experience with your daughter reminds me of C...Your experience with your daughter reminds me of Charlotte Mason style of homeschooling. What you share really shows that spending two hours of effective learning will give better result compared to whole day schooling plus tuition which is tiring our students and may not necessarily be effective. I do wonder though if you have such a good result from homeschooling temporarily your children, why you didn't choose to homeschool them all the way, if you may share? Thanks a lot :)<br />Viola Deohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14780839998675693242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-46429025799819209992016-11-03T14:30:52.601+08:002016-11-03T14:30:52.601+08:00Hi Dr Pet,
Great post, as usual. I've never h...Hi Dr Pet,<br /><br />Great post, as usual. I've never heard of unschooling till now and harnessing the kids curiosity towards self-directed learning is something i shall let my girl try. <br /><br />Also, it would be of tremendous help if you could share in details how you teach your children to effectively plan their studies. My daughter is going to P4 and we tried to plan her work timetable with her but it always seem that i am the one who plan the bulk of it. I have no idea how much of the reins should be passed to her and i wouldnt want to spoon feed her either. Your wise words and ideas would really help!<br /><br />Limnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-17274060238199334752016-11-02T18:06:46.081+08:002016-11-02T18:06:46.081+08:00Thank you for your kind words.Thank you for your kind words.Petunia Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01168448898497786754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8210435929787404330.post-8653908509344681532016-11-01T15:33:11.887+08:002016-11-01T15:33:11.887+08:00Dr Pet:
Thanks for this post.
I applaud your eff...Dr Pet:<br /><br />Thanks for this post.<br /><br />I applaud your efforts in treading the path less traveled (never mind about not being honest with the school lah =p) as you have identified what your children need at a particular point in time and catered to those specific needs. I still recall your efforts to help your son in Chinese. <br /><br />It's so important for our children to know how to learn and enjoy the process of learning - and not simply *study* for the sake of exams.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com